Just when you think she’s falling for you she starts to pull away leaving you confused and starting to second guess yourself. Does she like you, or doesn’t she? Some girls are hard to read. Some will be too shy to let you know. Sometimes a girl will even hide her feelings because she is scared. Is that the case in your situation? Read the signs below that she is secretly in love with you.
10 Signs She Loves You But Is Scared
- She texts you almost everyday
- She told her friends about you
- She shares personal information
- She touches you a lot
- She smiles and laughs a lot
- Her pupils are dilated when she looks at you
- She seems interested in everything about you
- She wants to spend a lot of time together
- When she has something she wants to share, she calls you first
- When things go wrong she calls you first
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She Texts You Almost Everyday
If you two are constantly texting, she may have really fond feelings towards you. If you find yourself texting all day and night with this girl, it might be a really good sign that she is in love with you. Of course, some girls are just really big into texting, so it doesn’t mean for sure she likes you. Conversely, she could still love you and not be a big texter. Constant communication is a good sign though, so pay attention to how often she wants to text you.
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She Told Her Friend About You
Yes, girls talk to each other. If she’s falling for you, her friends definitely know. If it seems like her friends know about you, or she brings up something her friends said about you, it means you are a significant enough thing in her life that has chatted about you before. This is a really good sign and be a pretty strong indicator she likes you. It means you have been on her mind enough that she has told other people she values in her life about you.
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She Shares Personal Information
When she starts sharing personal and intimate information with you, it’s a strong sign that she is starting to trust you and feel a connection. She might be sharing meaningful memories, past traumas, hopes, dreams, beliefs, and ambitions. She might even ask you about these things. Sharing these deep insights into who she is and the things she has experienced is a good sign she values you beyond a normal friendship and wants to connect with you on a deeper level.
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She Touches You A Lot
Maybe she gently brushes your arm, maybe she seems to always be bumping into you, or maybe she’s much more direct and always giving you hugs. Regardless, touching is a good sign. If she seems to find a way to touch you, it can be a very powerful indicator that she is attracted to you. Keep that in mind the next time the two of you are together. Try to stay aware of how often she touches you.
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She Laughs and Smiles A Lot
If it seems she’s always laughing and smiling around you, that’s a great sign. You make her feel good. She enjoys being together. It is an specially good sign if she laughs at all of your dumb jokes, even when you know they are dumb.
Before you convince yourself that she loves you, make sure to understand that some girls are just naturally more smiley and laugh a lot. She may smile at you cutely, and still not love you. You have to read for other signs too, and you can’t just assume every girl that smiles at you loves you. You will misjudge a lot of social situations if you read too much into this one.
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Her Pupils are Dilated When She Looks at You
When you’re romantically or sexually attracted to someone, your brain gets a boost of the hormones oxytocin and dopamine. These hormones can cause your pupils dilate (1). Next time she’s gazing at you pay attention to the size of her pupils. If she’s smiling at you cutely and her pupils appear larger than normal, that’s a very good sign she loves you. This one is a physical reaction in her body, and it’s hard to fake. Though alcohol and other illicit substances, can also cause this. So, this doesn’t apply if your at a bar or she just got done with a smoke sesh.
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She Seems Interested in Everything About You
The more she asks you about your life the more she’s interested. If she asks you about work, your dreams, ambitions, family, siblings, whether you want kids or not, she’s probably really into you. When you really like someone, everything about them is fascinating and you want to learn everything about them. Some questions she asks might be to gauge long term compatibility too. Next time the two of you are together, pay attention to how often she seems interested in learning things about you. The more she asks, the more she might be interested.
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She Wants to Spend A Lot of Time Together
If she always seems to want to hangout, it can be a really good sign. She really likes your company and you make her feel at ease. She might be too afraid to directly ask you out, but your still always together. Especially if it’s just you and her alone. If she really likes you, she’ll make any excuse to spend time with you.
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When She Has Something She Wants to Share, She Calls You First
Maybe she just got a big promotion at work. Maybe her sister just got engaged. If anything significant happens in her life and you’re the first one she calls, that is a powerful sign of the connection she has to you. When something significant happens in our lives, we always want to share it with the people we value most. If she really loves you, you will be one of the first people she shares exciting news with.
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When Things Go Wrong She Calls You First
The same rules apply for when things go wrong in her life. If she gets a flat tire or is having any other kind of emergency and you’re the first one she dials—she really likes you. You might be the one she depends on when things get bad. Her knight in shining armor. She might be reaching out to you for help, or just to comfort her in her time of need. Either way, it’s a good sign you have a special place in her heart.
What Is She Scared Of?
So, you’ve read all the signs and you realize how many of them she shows. You’re convinced that she really does love you. But she seems afraid and hesitant. She might even pull back a little every time it seems like things are going so right. So what exactly is she afraid of? Usually there are two things that will cause a woman who really likes you to act hesitant and afraid of admitting her feelings.
Firstly, she could be scared of getting hurt again. If her last relationship ended in tragic heartbreak she could be very afraid of jumping into a new one and she hasn’t quite healed yet. Especially if her last relationship was recent, or she was cheated on. Depending on how her last relationship ended and how recent it was, she could be very afraid to trust again. This is a pretty normal reaction to the loss of a significant relationship. It could very well be the reason she seems so afraid to move things further along with you.
Secondly, she could be scared that you don’t feel the same way. If she states her interest in you and you don’t feel the same way, it could cause you to disappear from her life. She’s scared of losing you. She really likes you and is afraid that the feelings aren’t reciprocated. This might be why she is hesitant at announce her feelings for you. Rejection hurts and some people go to great lengths to avoid it.
What To Do When She’s Afraid of Admitting Her Feelings
She really does like you, and you like her, and you’re pretty sure the reason she is holding back is because she doesn’t want to get hurt again, or she’s just afraid you won’t feel the same way. She likes you but she’s hiding it and you know it. So what do you do now?
It’s pretty simple really—go for her. If you’re sure she really likes you, and you really like her. Just go for it. Life is too short to beat around the bush and wait for things to happen. You have to go after what you want.
If she’s afraid you’re going to hurt her, or afraid you don’t feel the same way, you just have to reassure her. But you can’t just do it with words. Actions speak louder than words. Be consistent. Ask her out, stay in her life, and show her you value her, and that you’re not going anywhere. If you stay consistent and show her through your actions that you really do care about her, she will come around, eventually. Just be consistent.