So she has a boyfriend but flirts with you anyways. What should you do? Should you flirt back? Do you ask her out? Or is she off limits? It’s no secret girl’s can be very complicated. If you’ve ever found yourself in this situation, you know how confusing it can be. In this short article we’re going to cover what it means if she’s in a relationship but is in a relationship, and how to respond.
What Does It Mean If She Has A Boyfriend But Flirts With You?
The truth is—no two girls are exactly alike, and no two situations are going to be the exact same. Ultimately, it depends on the girl what it means in the situation. For one girl it could mean one thing, while for another girl it could mean an entirely different thing. Here are some of the top reasons she might be flirting with you while in a relationship.
Reasons She Flirts With You When She Has a Boyfriend
- She really has a crush on you
- She just likes attention
- She’s just teasing you
- She’s just flirty
- She’s trying to make her boyfriend/husband jealous
- You’re misreading it
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She Really Has a Crush on You
One reason a girl may flirt with you when she’s in a relationship, is because she really does like you. I know this is the reason you were all secretly hoping for. If she has a crush on you but has a boyfriend or husband, this can make things very complicated. What if her boyfriend finds out? Are you going to feel guilty? Does she feel guilty? Will she leave him for you? Do you want her to?
The reality is that this does happen, and if this is your situation, you will have to figure out what to do. Later in this post we will give you some tips on what to do is you’re in this situation.
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She Just Likes Attention
Yes, some girls do just flirt because they want attention. Whether it’s lacking at home or not, they just like the way flirting makes them feel. So before you get your hopes up, understand that this may be the case, and she may not really be seriously considering dating you. It’s just her way of having fun and filling a basic need she has.
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She’s Just Teasing You
This one is very related to a girl just wanting attention. Typically these two go hand in hand. Some girls just like to tease you. You will come across girls who flirt with you just to get you flustered. This is a game some women play so they can feel wanted and attractive. Some girls also know they are “hot” and they just love getting guys worked up. Watch out for this kind of women, she is likely trouble.
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She’s Just Flirty
There are women who are more “flirty” than other girls. So it might come off like they are developing a crush on you, but this might be just how they act around guys. If you notice that she appears to be flirting with many other guys besides yourself, this might just be the way she has. If this is the case in your situation, you can’t really read too much into it. It probably doesn’t mean anything, so it’s best to not give anything too much weight.
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She’s Trying to Make Her Boyfriend/Husband Jealous
This is one of the crueler reasons that she may be flirting with you. I’m sure many of us have had this happen to us after a fight with our girlfriends. They start acting flirtatious with other guys to try to get back at us.
Either she’s not getting enough attention at home, she’s becoming jealous, or they just had a fight. If she’s just using you to get back at her boyfriend, you need to be careful, because you don’t want the angry jealous boyfriend coming after you. Stay away from women like this.
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You’re Misreading It
Sometimes the reality is that she is not really flirting with you. You might just be misreading her being friendly as her being flirtatious. It happens, we misjudge social situations all the time. Learn to get better at reading these situations and it will help you avoid any embarrassment in the future.
What to Do When She Has a Boyfriend But Flirts With You
If she’s flirting with you, but she doesn’t really have a crush on you, then your response is easy. Just be respectful, polite, and try to maintain your distance. If she just wants attention, is teasing you, or using you to get back at her boyfriend, you really don’t want to get involved in that mess.
This is the same response to have if she does have a crush on you, but you aren’t really into her. Just be nice and respectful, and try not to get involved. If she is mature she will understand that you are not interested in back off.
Now on the other hand if she does really like you, and you like her, this is where things get really complicated.
Should You Pursue A Girl Who Already Has A Boyfriend?
She texts you everyday, texts you at night. You always catch her looking at you. She flirts with you. You can tell she likes you. And you like her. But should you go after her?
This can be a very difficult decision to make. It can lead to burned bridges, strained friend groups, and heartache. It’s always a hard choice to make. Do you have a lot of mutual friends? Where do you know her from? Do you work together? Can you handle the gossip. There are a lot of factors that come into play. Each situation is going to be different.
For example, if she is dating one of your best friends or a family member, stay away. It’s probably not worth the damage to your other relationships. This will burn bridges and it might not end up being worth it in the long run.
If she has a history or messing around with other guys when she’s in relationships, stay away. If she already has a boyfriend and she’s messing around with you, and she’s done this in previous relationships. She’s going to mess around on you too. You don’t want that. Stay away from that trainwreck.
Now, if you can handle any gossip, and you’re not worried about damaging any friendships (maybe you don’t have mutual friends, or even know the boyfriend) then we say go for it. Life is too short to let opportunities slip you by. She might really be the one for you. Sometimes it’s better to just take the plunge and go with the flow.
To recap, we’ve covered some of the reasons she may be flirting with you, even though she’s in a relationship, what to do if she doesn’t really like you, what to do if you don’t like her, and what to do if you both actually do like each other. Whatever your unique case may be. Good luck!
